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Are you in the middle of a separation or a sticky divorce, and you’re pretty much at your wit's end because you can’t handle the divorce and this crisis at the same time? I’m going to give you a few tips on how you can compartmentalize the stressors so that you can still function.

I'm also offering 4-week workshops (once per week, confidential video conferences) for those who may be dealing with divorce and separation during this health crisis. You can learn more here if...

CHANDLER HOFFMAN AND SUSAN REGAN, TWO SEASONED DIVORCE PROFESSIONALS FROM THE BAY AREA, TALK ABOUT

DEMYSTIFYING DIVORCE:
MANAGING CONFLICT IN SEPARATION

How do you know it’s time to engage a professional to get you through your divorce, work through the conflict, and make sure your children have healthy relationships with both parents? Perhaps you’ve already tried to work it out between you, and don’t want to invoke the courts — but you’re still dealing with...

ROBERT TERRIS AND SUSAN REGAN, TWO SEASONED DIVORCE PROFESSIONALS FROM THE BAY AREA, TALK ABOUT

DEMYSTIFYING DIVORCE: GETTING “UNSTUCK”

Divorce and separation can be extremely daunting and involve complex decisions and processes — and it’s easy for couples to get “stuck” and stay in their relationships, even though they’re unhappy, the situation is irreparable, and the damage of staying is palpable. Finances, children and fear can make people feel as...

SUSAN PEASE GADOUA AND SUSAN REGAN, TWO SEASONED DIVORCE PROFESSIONALS FROM THE BAY AREA, TALK ABOUT

DEMYSTIFYING DIVORCE

These two have known of each other and have cross-referred for many years. They saw similarities in one another’s work and commitment to healing people dealing with separation. Both Susans believe in creating a different model, so people can feel successful, connect in healthy ways, and change some of the relationship patterns that haven’t worked. Because of...

We all need personal time and space. This may mean alone time, or time with just our friends. Sometimes, fear of hurting, abandoning or rejecting your partner can make it hard to say, “I need some time alone.” Over time, this can leave you feeling depleted or resentful. Or it can have the opposite of the intended effect – you stay home with your spouse or partner, but avoid contact. One of you watches TV downstairs while the other is upstairs on the computer.

Bringing your...

Divorce is the second greatest life stressor after the death of a loved one.

People experience the stages of grief and loss in much the same way:
Denial / Anger / Bargaining / Guilt / Depression / Acceptance.

These stages of grief are experienced differently in divorce. Often one person (the initiator) wants the divorce. The other (the recipient) might want the marriage to continue. The initiator may feel more of the guilt and responsibility. The recipient may cycle between bargaining and...

Divorce With Dignity is a divorce facilitation service with the goal of getting people through their divorce in a holistic, cooperative, peaceful, and cost-effective way. One of the benefits we offer our clients is referrals for additional services they may need to make the divorce a smoother transition. For example, some clients may be in situations where they have a need to seek therapy or counseling during the divorce process. In these cases, we refer them to professionals like Susan...

When there is personality conflict,
it’s invaluable to have the help of a neutral third party
– someone who understands how divorce impacts everyone,
including parents and kids.

Co-parent Counseling benefits include:

• Keeping focused on the children
• Understanding kids’ developmental needs
• Helping kids adjust to the transition
• Providing a neutral and emotionally safe place for parents to create a new relationship, based on the best interests of their kids.

Co-parent Counseling...

Divorce With Dignity is a divorce facilitation service with the goal of getting people through their divorce in a holistic, cooperative, peaceful, and cost-effective way. One of the benefits we offer our clients is referrals for additional services they may need to make the divorce a smoother transition. For example, some clients may be in situations where they have a need to seek therapy or counseling during the divorce process. In these cases, we refer them to professionals like Susan...

Divorce is a scary and overwhelming thing. Sometimes people know they are unhappy in their marriage, but have trouble deciding what to do about it. Should they stick with the “known”, or jump into the unknown territory of divorce? How does one go about making the divorce decision?

One of our Divorce With Dignity referral associates is Marriage & Family Therapist Susan Regan, MFT. We asked her to share with us some of her thoughts on this topic.

Susan, in what ways do people...